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HOLY HATE

HALIFAX, Nova Scotia, August 14, 2025 – Hate is getting a bad rap these days, but it shouldn’t. As born-again believers, we need to hate as much as we need to love. The two are not exclusive, hate and love, but rather different expressions of the same passion for God. If you don’t hate sin, you don’t love God.

Sin is another word that’s been getting a bad rap lately. The same people who talk smack about hate also dis sin, if they mention it at all. For the hate haters, sin doesn’t exist, at least not to them. I guess if you claim something doesn’t exist, you can’t be held responsible for it.

But we know only too well that sin exists because it was sin that once separated us from God. We were all deeply acquainted with sin, we born-again believers, and so based on our former deep acquaintance can stare sin straight in the face and call it what it is. We have no problem identifying sin or calling sin “sin”. We don’t look the other way and pretend it doesn’t exist. We don’t call it “a lifestyle choice” or “born that way”. We don’t dismiss it as a “product of his or her environment”. We don’t promote it as “progress” or “cultural expression”. We don’t give sin medals. We see sin for what it is and have no problem calling it out. We have no problem hating sin. In fact, hating sin is one of the chief characteristics of a born-again believer.

If we don’t hate sin, we don’t love God.

Allow me to state for the record that I hate and I hate unapologetically. I hate with a passion and a fervor, and I let my hatred burn where it ought. There’s a firepit in my soul that God made especially for my holy hatred. There I tend my hate and let it burn. I don’t quench it. I don’t deny it. I let the flames rise freely and steadily and hot, as God intended.

But it’s sin I hate, not people. This distinction must be made and held tightly – it’s sin I hate, not people: the sin within people, the sin done by people, the sin condoned by people. I don’t brush sin off as not my concern. I’m not cold to sin. I’m not indifferent to it. If you sin anywhere near me, don’t expect me not to hate your sin. Don’t expect me to embrace your sin and celebrate it. Don’t expect me to soothe you in your sin. Expect me to hate your sin and to call it sin. The same everything I give to loving God, I give to hating your sin.

We born-again believers need to revel in our holy hate for sin. It’s another way of expressing our love for God. Never let anyone tell you that you can’t hate or that your hate is wrong. “Love the sinner, hate the sin” is not a blithe byline but a core Kingdom doctrine. Note that it’s “hate the sin”, not look past the sin or lightly rebuke the sin. Hate is what is called for when it comes to sin: Hate, pure and strong; hate that is God-sanctioned and God-fueled, the kind of hate that drove Jesus to overturn tables in the temple.

Love the sinner, HATE the sin.

Nothing less will do.

THE PARABLE

HALIFAX, Nova Scotia, August 9, 2025 – There were two prototype churches during Jesus’ ministry – the inner circle made up of Jesus and his close followers, and the outer circle made up of casual followers who came and went. After Pentecost, these prototypes became, respectively, the Kingdom Church, peopled by Holy Spirit-filled born-again believers, and the worldly church, peopled by everyone else who calls him- or herself a Christian. The two churches remain to this day.

As a born-again believer who came to faith instantaneously and miraculously, I am mystified by people who choose to remain in the worldly church (because it is a choice to remain there, a personal choice). I can’t fathom the mindset where someone would say “I’ll commit this much of myself to God, but no more”.  I can only assume the lack of commitment comes from not knowing the first Commandment or, knowing it, choosing not to follow it.

Before I was a believer, I knew many people in the worldly church. There wasn’t much to distinguish them from me, other than that some of them attended a church service on occasion or wore a cross under their shirt. They drank with me, cursed with me, did all manner of whatever with me, but then checked the “Catholic” or “Protestant” box on official forms. I even ridiculed their beliefs to their faces, and they just laughed. Their casual approach to God is one of the main reasons why I never at that time seriously considered looking to God for answers to my many problems, though even if I had considered looking to God, I wouldn’t gotten anywhere until he actually called me.

When God calls you, it’s a one-and-done deal. He doesn’t call you, is rejected by you, and then comes back later to try again. You get one shot. If you accept his call, he’ll test you to gauge your sincerity. If he finds you sincere, he’ll convert you and you’ll be born again, but the tests won’t stop there. They’ll keep on going until you draw your last earthly breath.

Most people in the worldly church have been called and are now being tested for their sincerity. They’re drawn to what God’s offering, but they’re also partly drawn to what Satan is offering. God is patient and so is giving them an allotted time to sort things out. During this time (the duration of which is known only to God), their commitment typically waxes and wanes, though as long as it remains above a certain measure, they’re still in the worldly church, which means there’s still hope for them. But, again, no-one knows the time God allots to each soul. When time’s up and that soul is still dithering, it’s lost forever. This spiritual fact should scare the you-know-what out of everyone in the worldly church.

I was born-again from atheism and so didn’t go through the worldly church phase. When God called me, I immediately threw my full lot in with him, holding nothing back. God knew this (knowing my heart) and so converted me (healed me) on the spot, giving me a portion of his Holy Spirit. The tests, though – the tests have been non-stop for me as a born-again believer, and I’ve struggled with many of them. The higher you climb the mountain, the more rugged the terrain and the tougher the conditions.

Jesus had to teach his casual followers in parables because they weren’t able to receive God’s Truth straight up. His close followers could receive it, but his casual followers needed it veiled. If any of you reading this are still in the worldly church, here’s a parable for you:

There once was a donkey. He was a nice enough donkey, as donkeys go. With few exceptions, he nearly always did what his master asked of him. And because the donkey was more obedient than stubborn, his master kept him and was kind to him and continued to feed and shelter him for many years.

But as time passed, the donkey grew less and less obedient and more and more stubborn. His master noticed this and tried to correct the donkey’s behavior. At first, he tried correcting him with a gentle hand, but the donkey ignored him. So then he tried correcting him with a heavier hand that slightly hurt the donkey (though just enough to get his attention and show him that his master meant business). Still, the donkey persisted in his bad behavior, growing more and more stubborn with each passing day.

The master was at a loss for what to do. He was fond of the donkey, but because of his stubbornness, the donkey was of no use to him. And so, one day, the master made the difficult decision to let the donkey go.

The man who came and took the donkey away didn’t care that he was stubborn.

He was a salami maker.

ON PRAYER PRIDE

HALIFAX, Nova Scotia, August 7, 2025 – When I was an atheist, one of the things that bothered me the most about Christians was their insistence that they pray for me. They’d tell me that they wanted to pray for me, sometimes asking me if that was OK, but most of the time not. If they did ask, I would turn them down with a sneer. No means no, even when it comes to God’s blessings.

The pride that some Christians take in praying for others still bothers me as a born-again believer. Prayer is the most powerful force in the universe, and it should never be used lightly or against the wishes of the recipient. It should also never be done from a position of pride. Or better said, it can’t be done from a position of pride, any more than it can be done lightly or against people’s wishes. Christians may think they’re praying in these cases, but all they’re doing is the spiritual equivalent of spinning their wheels. They’re accomplishing nothing good and going nowhere.

After I was born-again, God let me in on a secret that he’d held from me for decades as an unbeliever. He revealed to me that my grandmother had secretly prayed for me all those years. She’d prayed for me without telling me (and yes, without asking me) because God had guided her to do so, and she prayed from a place of grandmotherly love, not from pride. She did it in secret, and she did it out of obedience to God.

When I was born-again, my grandmother was the first person I told, because in my mind she was the only person I knew who’d understand what had happened to me. What I didn’t know at the time was that God had me rush to tell her because the news of my conversion was part of his payment to her for her labors. She wasn’t just the only person I knew who’d understand what had happened to me, she was the one person who needed to hear it, and God made sure she did. Scripture says there’s more joy in Heaven over one sinner who repents, and that same joy is felt in genuine believers like my grandmother. We believers get paid first and foremost in joy, the kind that only comes from God through his Holy Spirit. Sure, we get other blessings, too (God is very generous to his children), but the main payment is joy.

We need to pray only for those God guides us to pray for, in obedience to him, not to “Christian prayer tradition”. Jesus wasn’t a fan of public prayer and used it only in rare cases where circumstances demanded it be used and where God guided him to use it. Otherwise, he followed his own advice of retreating to his prayer closet (or to anyplace private) and praying in secret for those God guided him to pray for. Jesus is our model for how to pray, not YouTube prophets or televangelists or street preachers. We’re to pray in secret and only with God’s go-ahead, and to pray from a place of love, not pride.

Prayer is the most powerful force in the universe; we need to respect it as such.

THE COST OF DISCIPLESHIP

HALIFAX, Nova Scotia, August 2, 2025 – A love of the truth, the desire for truth, the need for truth – these all exist at a gut level in those who love God. Where there is no love for the truth, there can be no love for God. Without a love for the truth, there can be a seeming love for God, a casual affection for God, but no genuine love. Only those who have a love for the truth can genuinely love God.

There’s a reason why the first Commandment is to love God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength. God made it the first Commandment, because if we love God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength, the other Commandments will be easy for us to keep. By “easy to keep”, I mean self-evident. It’s self-evident that if we love God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength, we’ll keep his Commandments. It would be self-contradictory for us not to keep them.

I’ve been talking about love for the truth in the past few articles because love for the truth is central to our reality as born-again believers, and I don’t think it gets enough press. Love, of course, gets lots of press, but love for the truth often gets pushed to the side, being the plain-speaking and so less desirable sister. We’re taught by the worldly church to love everyone without distinction, but rarely are we encouraged to speak God’s truth at all costs. This is a great failing on the part of the worldly church, not to emphasize the primacy of love for the truth.

God is Truth and the sole source of it, and so to have a love for the truth is to love God (even if you don’t believe he exists). When Jesus started his ministry, the first thing he did was to leave everything and everyone behind. And why did he do that? Because worldly values and love for the truth cannot peacefully co-exist. If you have a genuine love for the truth, you cannot compromise, and the world requires constant compromise.

Jesus’ first disciples likewise had to choose between the world and love for the truth. Thank God they chose truth! As soon as Jesus called them, they left everything and everyone behind, understanding that there could be no compromise in Kingdom work.

I am deeply saddened when I hear words like “diplomacy” and “tolerance” being used to describe Christians’ interactions with the world. These words have never been used to describe Jesus’ interactions and so should never be used to describe the interactions of those who claim to be Jesus’ followers. We cannot be diplomatic and tolerant and have a love for the truth at the same time. Diplomacy and tolerance are worldly values, not Kingdom values.

Like the early Church, we born-again believers can have a certain degree of community with each other, but only if it’s predicated on a love for the truth. I’ve made it my mission on this blog not to compromise, not to be diplomatic, and not to be tolerant of untruths, which has not made me many friends. But I’m not looking to make friends here, at least not at the cost of compromising my love for the truth. I have friends enough in the heavenly realm. It’s more important that I speak God’s truth, and God’s truth cannot be compromised to spare someone’s feelings.

Jesus never once minced his words, even if it meant he trampled on people’s sensibilities. In this, as in everything else, we’re to follow Jesus’ lead. I don’t mean we should be purposely cruel for the sake of cruelty. No. I mean that we should speak God’s truth uncompromisingly, as all God’s prophets have done throughout the ages, and that we should speak God’s truth regardless of the cost. It’s the high price of discipleship that lost Jesus most of his early followers and it’s still losing him followers today. Who wants to live poor, outcast, mocked, despised, and out of synch with the world?

I do, if that’s what it takes to stay loyal to God.

I’m happy for them to say at my passing: “I never liked her. I’m glad she’s gone”, if before their own passing they say: “She was right.”

ON PROVOCATIONS

HALIFAX, Nova Scotia, July 30, 2025 – We’re not to respond to provocations like the world responds, we’re to respond like Jesus.

Again – we’re not to respond to provocations like the world responds, we’re to respond like Jesus.

Provocations are tests. When someone offends us, we’re being tested on our response. We shouldn’t respond with anger or with threats of retribution, because “vengeance is mine, saith the Lord; I will repay.”  If we respond with anger or with threats of retribution, we’ll fail the test. If we fail the test, we’ll have to keep taking it until we get it right.

Our job is not to do God’s job. God has a job to do when people offend his children, and that job is vengeance, God-style. God is very good at his job (in fact, he’s perfect at it), so we don’t need to do his job for him. If we try to help, we’ll just get in the way and make things worse for ourselves.

Vengeance is not our job as children of God. What is our job is what Jesus taught us to do when people offend us – we’re to pray for them (as God gives us guidance) and bless them (as God gives us guidance). Nowhere does Jesus say that we’re to give an eye for an eye or sue the offenders in a court of law. That’s the world’s way, not our way.

How we respond to offences distinguishes us from the world. We can’t respond to offences like the world responds and then call ourselves followers of Jesus. If we respond to offences like the world responds, nothing distinguishes us from unbelievers, not in the spiritual realm, anyway, which is the only realm that matters. We can preach the Gospel until the cows come home, sing sweet sweet melodies to Jesus, and give everything we have to the poor, but if we respond to provocations like the world responds, we fail our test and drop in spiritual rank.

This is not what we want as followers of Jesus.

Provocations are not few and far between; they’re not once-in-a-lifetime or rare events: They’re daily occurrences, sometimes even hourly or minute by minute. At times, one provocation is barely finished before the next comes hard on its heels, giving you no time to regroup or catch your spiritual breath. The closer you grow to God—the closer you follow Jesus—the more and harder the tests, and the faster they come.

We will continue to be tested for the rest of our time here on Earth. We’re to respond to provocations like Jesus showed us, not like the world shows us. That means no lawsuits, no tit-for-tat, no bearing our grievance like a trophy, and no vows of revenge. Given that our every word, thought, and deed is being meticulously recorded in the spiritual realm, we must respond like Jesus responded, like he taught us to respond. For us, with our sights on Heaven, there can be no other way.

SANCTUARY: PRELUDE

HALIFAX, Nova Scotia, July 25, 2025 – I know that you come here and that you take great pains to hide that you come here. I know you’ve told no-one that you come here because there’s really no-one to tell, is there? Not in your world, where every deed is weighed and measured and every word examined for inklings of betrayal. That’s how starts, the betrayal – by inklings, by niggling doubts that everything might not be quite as rosy as you were assured it would be.

And that’s why you’re here. Your nigglings and inklings brought you here, and you’re right to be here. You’re right to have doubts. A sane mind reflexively responds to lies with doubt. Whatever they told you when you signed on all those years ago – whatever they told you about what happens afterwards – was a lie. You’re not exempt. The ‘chosen’ are not exempt. You can’t barter good deeds for the privileges you’re afforded. You can’t nullify the consequences of what they ordered you to do. When all is said and done, we’re all held to the same measure, which is the reason why I’m talking to you here today.

We’re all held to the same measure – no exemptions – and sooner or later that measure is taken. With you, it might be taken later, but it will be taken. That’s a guarantee. And everything you did, assured that you’d mitigated the consequences through the rituals and the offerings and the works of charity – everything you did will come crashing down on you like the proverbial cornerstone. You cannot escape consequences.

As you know only too well, they monitor everything, listening for a stray word here and there, for a sign that things might not be with you as they should. And if they find a sign, they’ll test your loyalty, adding burden to burden. Only your thoughts are safe from them. Only your thoughts remain your own, and your thoughts are the only place you can openly doubt them. God gave you this sanctuary of your thoughts so that you’d have somewhere to go to make sense of it all. He knew that they’d come for you all those years ago, and why they’d come, and what they’d offer, and he also knew why you’d agree to their terms, just as he knew that one day you’d start to have doubts about your agreement.

Imagine if you didn’t have the safe space of your thoughts! Imagine if you had no place to hear yourself think! But God loves you so much that he gave you this sanctuary, this place where you’re free to think whatever you want, where you’re free to be you. They cannot follow you into your sanctuary. They cannot hear your thoughts.

We can meet there, if you like, in your thoughts. When you mull over these words, that’s how we meet.

Your thoughts are safe with me.

ME, CHARLTON HESTON, AND AI

HALIFAX, Nova Scotia, July 17, 2025 – When I was eight years old, my grandmother took my sister and I to the movies one hot summer afternoon. We’d planned on seeing the latest Disney flick, but when we got to the theater, we found out that it was no longer playing. The sweltering hour-long bus ride from the suburbs had put my grandmother in no mood for an immediate return trip, and lured by the coolness wafting from the ticket booth window, she decided that what was on the screen didn’t matter: She needed to be in that air-conditioned theater. And so, she purchased one adult and two child tickets for whatever was playing that day, and what was playing that day was The Omega Man.

The Omega Man is a post-apocalyptic horror film starring Charlton Heston. Because it was made for adults, most of the movie was pretty much lost on me, though some scenes stay with me to this day. Granted, what frightened me as a child no longer frightens me as an adult, but what caught my interest then still draws me now, and what caught my interest was the solo life of the main character.

Far from being horrified by his aloneness, I was fascinated by it. I wanted to live alone in a big house like him and speed through deserted streets in a cool car like him. I wanted to shop in deserted stores like him and wander through deserted buildings like him. I’m not sure this was the response that the screenwriters had hoped to elicit from the audience, but it’s what they got from me. That’s what I took from the movie as a kid, that, and the certain knowledge that if your afro suddenly turns white, you’re doomed.

I’ve since rewatched The Omega Man, this time as an adult. I’ve also watched The Last Man on Earth, starring Vincent Price, and I Am Legend, starring Will Smith. All these movies are based on the same novel, and all feature a strong but reluctantly solo male character whose downfall starts when he allows a female into his safe space (plot sound familiar? lol ;D). To me, all the movies kind of fizzle out as soon as the female arrives and the focus shifts from the male’s ingenious survival techniques to the male throwing all caution to the wind for the sake of “gettin’ some”.

The allure of living alone in a deserted city remains as strong for me today as it did years ago. At the start of the so-called pandemic in early 2020, I was the one wandering the deserted streets at all hours and riding around in empty buses. I was the one who didn’t want the lockdowns to end if it meant people continued to cower in their houses and work and study from home. I was the one who wanted the whole store to myself—the whole city to myself—and for a few fleeting moments it seemed like I did.

I mention the Omega movies because I had a curious daydream today that may or may not have been inspired by them. In my daydream, I was the only person living in my part of the city. The reason I was the only one living there is because I was the only one who was born-again. Everyone else had left or died or had otherwise been removed. But far from feeling lonely, I reveled in my aloneness: I’d waited a long time to have this place to myself.

I was aware that there were other born-again believers in other parts of the city. We’d spy each other in the distance on occasion and wave in greeting, but we felt no pressing need to meet up. We were happy to be in our own and God’s company. It was enough for us to know that there were other born-again believers out there as far-flung neighbors and that we could meet up at any time if we wanted to. We also knew that we had nothing to fear from each other because we were God-approved and God-affirmed. We wouldn’t be there if we weren’t.

And so, in my daydream, I lived a life of ease and comfort, never locking my doors, never wary of going out after dark, never worrying about anyone stealing my bike or any of my possessions. I went to stores that stocked all my favorite things, and I never had to pay for them. All the services required for modern life, like clean running water and electricity, continued as before, only better. I lacked for nothing, and everything ran smoothly and seamlessly. But how was this possible with only a handful of people living in the city?

Enter AI. An army of bots had been programmed to provide for my and my neighbours’ every need. From the planting of seeds to the harvesting, processing, delivery, and even display of the final products, everything was done by robots that were directed and monitored by AI. Self-driving buses carted me around on my daily adventures unless I wanted to drive one of the countless abandoned cool cars at my disposal. Self-driving garbage trucks picked up my garbage at my command. If I fancied a pizza, bots would prepare it for me and deliver it piping hot, all within a half hour (and still free!).

As I delved deeper and deeper into my daydream, it occurred to me that what I was seeing was a high-tech version of Heaven that was super-imposed on my current surroundings. It was an idealized here and now that had some elements of the post-apocalyptic movies I’d seen, but with all the negative aspects removed. Instead of mutants and zombies, born-again believers were my neighbors. Instead of overgrown streets and crumbling buildings, tidiness and order ruled the day. Instead of having to forage for leftovers in dead people’s fridges, I was offered fresh produce in pristine stores.

But then I thought: What’s the point of having Heaven on Earth if I can have Heaven in Heaven? I might finally have good neighbors if they’re all born-again, but bugs and dogs can bite me here, and I still generate waste and need a bath. For all its wonders and conveniences, the AI-enabled city I’d envisioned falls far short of the supernatural perfection that awaits us in Heaven. Earth can never be Heaven, no matter how high the tech, and trying to make it so is a waste of time.

Better to daydream about (and wait for) the Real Thing… and maybe be a little pickier about the movies I watch next time!

ZEAL FOR MY HOUSE

HALIFAX, Nova Scotia, July 6, 2025 – There are very few things that get my goad more than the lie about a “millennial kingdom”, where Jesus will descend to Earth in bodily form and rule from the temple in Jerusalem for a thousand years. The absolute and utter hogwash of this “prophecy” should anger anyone who’s born-again and living in the prophesied Kingdom because it flies in the face of everything we know to be true about God’s Kingdom on Earth. And we know it to be true because we’re living in that Kingdom. It’s our everyday reality.

According to scripture, Jesus’ main teaching topic was showing people how to live in the Kingdom of God on Earth. Why would Jesus have wasted these people’s time teaching them how to live in the Kingdom if that Kingdom wasn’t to come for thousands of years? When Jesus said: “If I by the finger of God cast out demons, then the Kingdom has come upon you”, was he lying? Did he not cast out demons by the finger of God, and even if he did, was the Kingdom not then upon them?

Of course, we know that Jesus wasn’t lying either about casting out demons by the power of God’s Holy Spirit or about the establishment of the Kingdom already during his time on Earth. When Jesus rode into Jerusalem on a donkey, he rode in as a king, as prophesied in scripture. He was crucified under the marker “King of the Jews”. He now sits at the right hand of God and has been there since his ascension nearly 2000 years ago. He is King of kings and Lord of lords, and rules over God’s Kingdom on Earth. He has full authority over Satan and over all the fallen spirits, and by proxy, so do we, if we’re genuinely born-again.

Jesus said: “In the world, you’ll have problems, but don’t worry about it: I’ve overcome the world”, and also: “My Kingdom is not of this world”. This is the Kingdom where we, as born-again believers, live and move spiritually, have our being, and are protected and guided by God and Jesus, as Jesus promised we would be. There’ll be no other kingdom (though people are waiting in vain for one), just as there’ll be no other messiah (though people are waiting in vain for one). The here-and-now spiritual realm of the Kingdom of God is the one and only prophesied Zion, just as the here-and-now Jesus is the one and only prophesied Messiah. If you’re genuinely born again, you know this to be true. If you’re not born again, you’re likely falling for lies.

And who’s behind those lies? Who wants people to believe that a physical kingdom will be set up and ruled over by a benevolent but nonetheless iron-fisted ruler in the not-too-distant but still hazy future? None other than the Father of Lies himself, who easily deceives people who are not born-again and so gloss over scripture in favor of having their ears tickled. God permits Satan and his minions to disseminate these lies as a test to those who say they believe but don’t. The so-called “millennial kingdom” is among the chiefest of those lies and one, frankly, that makes my blood boil whenever I hear it being repeated. It’s right up there with the “Jesus is coming back soon!” mantra and the “once saved, always saved” lie, making a mockery of everything Jesus taught us and everything we know to be true.

I haven’t yet progressed to the point of overturning tables and whipping random bystanders as an expression of my anger over false prophets and their lies, but that might not be far off. In the meantime, I calm myself with the reminder that God permits the lies for a purpose, though he has no problem with my being angry with them. In fact, he encourages our righteous anger: It helps fuel our zeal.

ON BETRAYAL

HALIFAX, Nova Scotia, July 6, 2025 – One of God’s chief promises is that he will never betray us. I think this promise doesn’t get the star treatment it deserves because most people haven’t lived long enough or suffered enough betrayals to understand its true value. During his time on Earth, Jesus never entirely confided in anyone except God, never put himself in a position of emotional vulnerability with anyone except God because, as scripture tells us, he knew people’s hearts. And knowing people’s hearts, Jesus knew that people were just a hair’s breadth away from betraying him at any given moment.

And he wasn’t wrong about that, considering that even his most loyal disciples ran from him at his arrest and then later denied knowing him. But knowing people’s high probability of betraying you gives you the advantage of not being surprised or even let down when they proceed to do so. We see this in how Jesus responded to his disciples’ betrayal. We need to deal with people who betray us in the same way Jesus dealt with them, all while learning from their betrayal that we’re to trust no-one but God.

I have lived long enough and suffered enough betrayals that I now, like Jesus, only put my trust in God. But it was a hard journey to get there. Unless we live in complete isolation, we interact daily with people, most or likely all of whom are not born again and therefore don’t consider themselves answerable to God. Not considering themselves answerable to God, they’re capable of virtually anything they believe they can get away with, and I’ve personally experienced some real doozies (and done a few myself, before I was reborn). But in every case where I was betrayed after my rebirth, I really didn’t have anyone but myself to blame for trusting people I knew in my heart I shouldn’t trust, not because they purposely choose evil, but because they’re guided by evil without knowing it.

It’s not virtuous to be unwise, and to trust people who are not born-again is unwise. That’s not to say that people can’t be trusted to a certain extent; you have to trust them with mundane everyday tasks or you’d have to withdraw entirely from society and live like John the Baptist before he started his ministry. Even Jesus didn’t do that and prayed that we’d be protected from the world, not taken out of it. He didn’t want us to isolate ourselves from the world, just to be wary of it and be protected from it. In other words, he prayed that we’d interact with the world on the same terms as he interacted with it during his ministry years.

God’s emphasis on his promise not to betray us highlights the importance God places on loyalty. If God values loyalty to such a great extent, so should we. That means we should not only expect it (though again, not from people), we should give it first and foremost to God, but also to people who are likely to turn around and betray us.

We are to expect betrayal from people and so not be surprised when they fulfill our expectations. In not being surprised, we should also not be angry or vengeful about it. Jesus wasn’t. Instead, knowing people’s hearts, Jesus chose not to make himself vulnerable in any way to people so that their inevitable betrayals would not hurt him.

Does this mean we should emotionally harden ourselves as a form of protection? God forbid. We were given a heart of flesh for our heart of stone at our rebirth, and we dare not go back on that trade. We should never emotionally harden ourselves but instead live with the understanding that we will, at some point, be betrayed even by those closest to us, but we will never be betrayed by God. Having this understanding, we allow ourselves to be ourselves only with God, and to give our confidences only to God, and to trust only God. This we can choose to do (it’s a choice), and if we choose not to do it, we have no-one to blame but ourselves when we suffer the consequences of human betrayal.

I love God with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength, and when I’m hurting in any way, I run to him for relief. Among God’s many wonderful characteristics is his utter candor, and so when I run to him with my hurts, he generously lets me know how they came to pass. He does this not while standing at a distance and pointing a finger at me but while I’m sitting on his lap and he’s soothing me. And in every instance, I learn (thanks to God’s candor) that I brought the pain on myself one way or another, usually by trusting the wrong person.

I thank God for this lesson, and his candor, and his soothing.

God’s promise not to betray us is an implicit invitation for us not to betray him. It’s also an implicit invitation to live like Jesus did during his ministry years, not hardening our heart to others but choosing very carefully what to confide and what to hide. God’s promise not to betray us likewise implies that everyone else will sooner or later betray us, a sad fact of this world that is backed up by scripture. Knowing this, we should expect betrayal and not be surprised or outraged by it. Rather, like Jesus, we should do all we can to avoid opening ourselves to betrayal, but if we still end up suffering it, we should take our hurt to God. He will soothe us, all while dealing with our betrayers in his time and in his way.

We can trust God implicitly to do that because he promises us he will, and he would never betray a promise to us.

ON SUFFERING FOR OTHERS’ SINS

HALIFAX, Nova Scotia, July 6, 2025 – One of the most grievous errors of Christianity is the mistaken belief that you can suffer for others’ sins, that you can take on the burden of their suffering and in that way exonerate them and pay their sin price before God. You cannot do that. Only Jesus could do that, and only for very specific sin. The sin price Jesus paid on the cross was Adam’s sin, which he could only do because he himself was sinless. No-one else could have paid Adam’s sin because no-one but Jesus was sinless.

In paying the sin price owed by Adam, Jesus negated the need for any further ritualistic sacrifice and opened the door for “whosoever will” to enter into right relationship with God again. That door was firmly shut until Jesus’ perfect sacrifice. It’s open now, but only to those God draws to him. Even with Jesus having paid the sin price, we’re still all born sinners. No-one is born in right relationship with God: you’re reborn into right relationship, just as no-one is born a child of God but reborn a child of God. These distinctions are critically important, as they form the basis of who and what we are as born-again believers.

The recent media spectacle of the conclave leading to the coronation of Peter the Roman (a.k.a. Pope Leo the 14th) threw a spotlight on the rank and file of the abomination known as the Catholic church. That organization is infamous for selling ways to reduce sin-related suffering for a certain price, the chief one of which is “indulgences”. Luther condemned the selling of indulgences and in fact pointed to indulgences as being his main motivator for breaking away from the papacy. Unfortunately, that wasn’t the end of the “pay for pray” grifts, as indulgence-like mechanisms persist throughout all denominations even today, fooling people into parting with their money under various promotions such as “donations”, “tithing”, and “sowing”. But the idea underlying what amounts to spiritual extortion is the same as for indulgences: Give us your money, and we’ll make your life better.

As born-again believers, we know that the only way we can make our lives better is through genuine repentance, followed by humbly suffering whatever God deems we need to suffer. There’s no shortcut through this process, no matter how much people want to avoid the suffering part. The good news is that after we repent and are back in right relationship with God, whatever we need to suffer – our own personal sin price – is mitigated by our love for God and his love for us. I’m not saying suffering can be made pleasurable; I would never say that. I’m just saying earned suffering doesn’t feel as bad when you’re in right relationship with God. Scripture says that God will wipe away all our tears, and so he does. No-one can kiss away the pain of a spiritual boo-boo quite like our heavenly Father.

As much as we might want to, we cannot suffer for others as a way to pay their sin price before God any more than we can pay a certain amount of money to make our suffering go away. We all need to make our own peace with God and to do so in our own time and our own way. It cannot be done on by others on our behalf. Jesus paid the sin price owed by Adam and was able to do it 1) because he was born sin-free and 2) lived his life here on Earth sin-free and 3) was tapped by God to do it and agreed to do it. Jesus became the perfect sacrifice that ended the need for any further temple sacrifices.

We, on the other hand, were born in sin and continued to sin up until our rebirth, and then on occasion we sinned again, though not grievously if we’re still born-again, not to the loss of our grace given to us by God at our rebirth. Still, getting into right relationship with God was a process we had to go through; it wasn’t a birthright, just as staying in right relationship with God is an ongoing process, not a “one and done” deal, as false prophets would have us believe.

We cannot suffer for others’ sins because we’re not Jesus, meaning that we weren’t born sinless and haven’t lived sinlessly and aren’t tapped by God to suffer for others. As born-again believers in right-standing with God, we can pray for others, we can help others, we can teach others, and we can preach to others, but we cannot suffer on their behalf: We cannot pray away or pay away their sin. They need to suffer on their own and to the full measure allotted by God. This is a spiritual principle that we need to take to heart lest we, too, be fooled by grifters or by our own spiritual arrogance.