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Every day, I ask God what I should write about. Today he said: “Forgiveness.”

Then he said to tell everyone to stop what they’re doing.

Just STOP.

He said this is the most important thing you’ll do today.

Stop whatever else you’re doing and pay attention.

Forgiveness is not a touchy-feely warm ‘n’ fuzzy group hug kind of emotion.

Forgiveness is a choice.

And chances are that you won’t want to make that choice.

But if you don’t, you won’t get to heaven.

These are the facts. God isn’t going to change the facts just because you don’t feel like forgiving everyone.


No-one gets into heaven with any unforgiveness on their soul. If you’re harboring resentment or grudges, that’s unforgiveness. If you’re blaming someone for something they did last week or 60 years ago, that’s unforgiveness. Having unforgiveness on your soul is the same as having unrepentant murder.

The end of your world will come in your lifetime. That’s a guarantee. It may come in 20 years or it may come in 20 seconds.

But when it does come, you won’t get into heaven with unforgiveness on your soul.

Once your time is up, it’s too late to make the choice to forgive. God, in his mercy, may give you one final chance, but don’t count on it. It all depends on how many times you’ve been told to forgive, and how many times you’ve rejected the advice.

God is patient, but he’s no sucker.

So whatever it is you’ve been holding onto, let it go. Just say: “I CHOOSE TO FORGIVE.”

Just like that.


And then make good on your choice by choosing not to think or talk about the grievance anymore. And if it pops into your head for whatever reason, say again: I CHOOSE TO FORGIVE. Every time it pops up, say again: I CHOOSE TO FORGIVE.

Forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling.


Forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling.


Forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling.

If you don’t choose to forgive, God will not forgive you.

If God doesn’t forgive you, that means no soul healing and no ‘heaven on Earth’ as a born-again.

And if you refuse to forgive even up to the moment of your death, your unforgiveness means you go to hell.


There is no other option.

Forgiveness leads to heaven; unforgiveness leads to hell.

This is a spiritual fact of life.

If you’re living or working in an abusive situation, leave immediately and choose to forgive.

Do not go back. Do not press charges or file a report. If you’ve already pressed charges or filed a report, drop them.

Do not go back into the abusive situation, but choose to forgive.

Jesus says we are to forgive our abusers not seven times by seventy times seven.

He means there are no limits to how many times we forgive: we forgive as many times as we’re hurt.

Jesus says that if we don’t forgive those who hurt us, God will not forgive us. If God doesn’t forgive us, we won’t get into heaven.

If God doesn’t forgive us, we won’t get into heaven.

Let that sink in: If God doesn’t forgive you, you won’t get into heaven.

That’s another spiritual fact of life.

So how do you get God to forgive you?

By choosing to forgive others.

“Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.”

There are ZERO exceptions.

Just like there are no asterisks on the Ten Commandments, stating in fine print below that it’s OK to murder in self-defense or in the line of duty, there are no asterisks and fine print below Jesus’ directive to forgive.

What you choose to do with this information is up to you, but God and Jesus are begging you to choose NOW to forgive everyone for everything.


It may be the best and last thing you ever do.

STOP TALKING ABOUT IT! Choosing to Forgive Means Not Talking About it Anymore

love forgives and forgets

Christians are a funny bunch. They spend a lot of time in group hugs and “sharing” sessions, all the while lamenting what a rough time they’ve had at the hands of parents, spouses or acquaintances before they became Christians. They even sometimes go into gory details about their abusers, offering up their abuse stories for sympathy (I suppose), although they mask it as a learning or a teaching moment.

These stories aren’t teaching anyone anything except how NOT to choose to forgive.

When we choose to forgive, we should do the same thing as God does when he forgives – forget about it. Forgetting about it means to CONSCIOUSLY choose to put it to the back of our minds, even if it keeps popping up. It’s a decision of the will. It’s not a feeling (you won’t feel like forgetting and you may even feel like you can’t forget; that’s why it’s a decision, not an emotion-based response). Ask God to help you with this. He’s more than happy to help you. THAT’S WHAT HE’S THERE FOR.

If you truly want to forgive, don’t talk about people who’ve hurt you and whom you’ve chosen to forgive. Don’t talk about what they’ve done to you, however horrible it was and however deeply it scarred you. As a born-again, you’ve become a completely new person. God has forgiven you because you’ve chosen to forgive everyone who’s hurt you. Whatever people did to you in the past, pre-rebirth, is dead and done; whatever people are doing to you now, post-rebirth, is likewise dead and done after you’ve chosen to forgive them (which you should do as soon as you notice someone’s hurt you).

Here’s what you do when you choose to forgive: You simply act as if it never happened, you pray for your abusers, and you keep a safe distance from them. If people prod you to talk about your experience, tell them it’s over and you don’t want to talk about it anymore. If you feel it starting to overwhelm you, take your pain to God in private. He wants to counsel and comfort you. He’s your counselor and your comforter. Chances are pretty good that he’ll tell you what I’m telling you – if you want the pain to go away, choose to forgive and TOTALLY forget.

Imagine if God says he forgives us one day, and then turns around the next day and starts railing at us about things we did two years ago! That would be very confusing for us and also very un-Godlike. Once God forgives us for something, he forgives us that thing forever. We’re supposed to do things God’s way, as Jesus did, and as Jesus taught us to do.

Remember: “Forgive us our sins, as we forgive those who sin against us.”

Choosing to forgive also means choosing to forget.

God will help you with this. Just ask him. He loves you. He’s waiting. Ask him.